Castle Analogy
I was having a little late night talk with my friend's last night . Standing outside this late night cafe watching different people , the topic of relationship popped up. Going through the entire debate was fun. On my way back playing OCEAN by SEVEN LIONS and blasting speakers crossing empty roads , I had a thought.
In that discussion the words like ; Vibes , Compatibility , Connection were mentioned by my female friends. In other words one in particular , G . She was about feelings you get from someone . She believed in the highlights of the relationship whereas the other M was more about ,"ALL MEN ARE DOGS".
Now , the thought is relationship cannot be defined by highlights . "what an amazing trip we had", "It was a fantastic vacation" , no. It has to be defined by the small ugly moments as what the other did in those times. You need to see the trash cans in your relationship . When the going gets tough you only think of those good times . That vacation , super trips won't be many . What will hit you more often are the Trash can days . If not more then at least 20 mins everyday .
The moments which are micro attractions . The moment where we think about them when we not need to like sitting in the office . Is she Ok ? , why did we fight on a stupid topic last night ? . Let me make it up to her by sending her flowers in her office , A cute little letter , etc . Action to these topics is what you should focus on.
But today the number of people who are staying in the relationships are all about remembering the only Happy Moments . And that is the specific reason they break it up this easily . Nobody wants to understand that one person and build happiness with them . You need to be happy and not exactly in so called Love all the time. Because Love can cut you if you are not happy . I was in deep love in my LTR but was I happy ... No. Her questioning me all the time and making me feel incompetent to make her happy broke me in half. I tried everyday to make her smile and we becoming happy whereas she was working on her exit plan. She stopped bringing me joy . I was in love but she brought me anxiety, heartaches,lowered my confidence, constant pain , feeling of overlooked and just not important anymore feeling.
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