Experiences of Life

On this valentine's day, I asked myself a question, "Can I love again?". Putting yourself out there again can be challenging, especially if it’s been a long time since your last romantic relationship. And sometimes you may not have moved on completely after a breakup. Trying to love again is a courageous act. It can take even more courage if your past relationship was bad or challenging. Taking the time to heal from this experience and learning to express your thoughts and feelings will help as you recover from this loss. While everyone reacts to a break-up differently, everyone does become a little wiser. For someone like me, who was in a mentally abusive relationship or worse if it was physical abusive it can be a scary thought. Grief is a normal response to loss. Most people associate grief with the death of a friend or loved one. However, any change in circumstances or relationships can trigger a grief response. It's normal to feel sadness and question things, es...

The Narc. Will do absolutely anything to make you leave. This article is basically for anyone who is in a narcissistic relationship or actually dealt with one. It’s very important that the world is educated on this subject. And I am just trying to do my bit. Even if 1 soul gets some benefit from my experience, I will be happy. Nobody deserves to go through such abuse.  When you are in this relationship, sometimes the narc. does find out that you have seen the real face. The face behind all the façade. The real entity. But they don’t have the guts themselves to end it. In such cases, they purposely stay in these relationships. Not to save it but make you do it. They will purposely make it a living hell for you. They will start doing all those things you hate. They will increase the abuse by 10 times. Be it gaslighting, manipulating, lies, all these types of things. The emotional, mental and in some cases even physical abuse increases tremendously. The narc. even if they want to g...

I hardly open up to details of my relationship. But when I go on, the one question which everyone asks is, "what took you so long?".  The average understanding of these narcissistic relationships is really low. The reason for being in it for so long is not a simple answer. My own shortcomings, past, my nature, me trusting her blindly, Love, etc, etc.  But why I ended up leaving was due to being in a place of forever frustration, exasperation, fear, confusion. These are not healthy states to be in. And this as well was addressed by my doctor. As I was in denial that I am in this state because of the woman I love and stay under the same roof with. Whom I share my bed with and to whom I am committed for life.  Ending a relationship is difficult. If both of you are healthy individuals then maybe both of you can acknowledge it and end it amicably. Both of them will feel the hurt, pain but then would somewhere be thankful to each other for all the good times. But in a narcissis...

  New Year, New Me.  Well, with this motto I have started my new year. But going forward what have I learned is in this blog. This article is here as on the night of 30th December, sitting with random strangers, I realised this. We were all a little drunk. Goa on 30th December is probably the place to be if you love to Party. Believe it or not, I was on a work trip till the 29th.  So, I decided to give myself a 24hr holiday and gave myself 30th Dec with a flight on 31st back to my hometown. Met a few strangers at the pool in my hotel, one kind of smiled and I smiled back. It's a match !. She asked," want to join ?". With absolute, no hesitation and I said, "sure". She sat behind my bike and we were at the beach in the next 15mins. The clock said 1:30AM but we were just getting started. Few beers in and the topic became, "relationships". With the Arabian sea at its high tide and a cool breeze in my head, I started with the little sad story of mine on my...

  Before you go crazy, let me explain. Women can love and do love but are incapable of loving you in a way you want them to. The real reason I am writing this today is because of the realisation I had not too long ago. The entire world is divided into the Red & Blue Pill communities. Once you have become a member of the Red pill the entire world around you changes.  The boy band songs you heard about, "come back baby", "you are my world"; start sounding like jokes. The way you start looking at the women after becoming red pill is different. Way different from the Blue pill world. You just cannot relate to things which many people sadly are today. They are mostly your family members, co-workers, friends and even your girlfriend for that matter.  The hard part is that when you are aware of the truth, you realize that women, in general, are nothing like what Disney movies showed. In fact, they are polar opposite. They are engineered way different than what was assu...

From the very start, I remember every man in my life telling me that communication is the way. But over my time dealing with women from different states, cities. nationalities I have figured out something. Communication might be the best policy but there are few things that no women, in general, do not want men to know.  No, no don't worry these ain't some ancient techniques I am talking about. These are a few so call open secrets which you will know if you can find out on your own or by getting someone's knowledge.  These are things about how to deal with them and maybe they help you in your relationships navigate a little better. Less stress and more fun is our motto here. So without further adieu let's get this going.  1) Women have Lower Expectations than what you think - You ask a woman what type of a man she wants and most of them have one standard answer:  Tall. Rich. Handsome. Ambitious. bla bla bla. But do all of them get this type of a man !!!?? . The answe...

  From the years of experience in this world and the dating scene, one thing which I have learned is that emotions and feelings are the foundation of any relationship. Anger is the most important of all. Anger can be very good for the relationship if channelled well. The problem is everyone knows how to get angry but very few know how to use it to make the relationship stronger.  If your girl is angry, there’s probably a good reason why. Anger is the emotion that tells us when something doesn’t seem right or fair or that we feel threatened in some way—and in today’s world, there are lots of things that might fit the bill. From not so important things like not liking her Instagram picture to why you do not like her cat. The list of " I am angry about" is way bigger than any galaxy. Even the creator himself is also not sure as to what can trigger it.  But even if she is angry on a subject which she thinks is a waste of time and her state is not making you angry, s...