Experiences of Life

Before diving into this topic, it's important to acknowledge that gender roles and expectations are largely societal constructs and that there is no one "right" way for a relationship to look or function. However, it's also important to recognize that many people have deeply ingrained beliefs about what it means to be a man or a woman in a relationship and that when those expectations are not met, it can lead to feelings of confusion and even betrayal. With that said, let's explore why some men might feel betrayed when women try to take on a more traditionally masculine role in a relationship. It's not uncommon for men to feel a sense of betrayal when women try to take on traditionally masculine roles in relationships. This can manifest in various ways, from feeling emasculated to feeling like their partner is trying to control them. But why does this happen? One reason is rooted in societal expectations and gender roles. For many generations, men were expect...

A heart once full of love and life, Now shattered by painful strife. A man who loved with all his heart Now left alone, torn apart. His once happy home, now a place of pain, A broken heart, a shattered chain.  The vows they took, now broken in two, Leaving him lost, not knowing what to do. The memories of the past, now haunt his dreams, A love that was once pure, now torn at the seams.  The emptiness he feels, deep in his soul, A pain that only time can console. The nights are long, the days are cold, His broken heart, a story untold.  He walks alone, with tears in his eyes, Wondering how he'll ever survive. But deep within, he finds the strength, To pick himself up, and go to any length.  He knows he deserves a love that's true, And someday, he'll find it too. For even though his heart is broken, He'll rise again, a love unspoken.  And though his past may have caused him pain, He'll find love and happiness once ...

  Today, we stay in a society where everything is more hidden than visible. Even in the most important relationship, people hide things. I am talking about long-term relationships;i.e- Marriage. One of the most common terminologies I have heard being used is, 'I need space". Now the reason why they say the partner wanted space was because of some depression they have been going through or some mid-life crisis. Another is, I want to myself as I cannot think what I want. Or on the flip side, you think she is non-committal and is not ready for a long-term relationship.  But these things are said because she has decided to part ways. What if I tell you, none of the above is the real reason why she wants to part ways. The problems are actually much deeper but in actuality very simple to resolve than you think. I will try and cover points such as what she won't tell you and what she can't tell you.  If you go through these modern sayings instead then it will actually rob you...

  The relationship-building exercise is a pretty tedious exercise and yes I am pretty well aware of the same. But this entire exercise consists of one thing which at times, I have also realised that I have stopped being. The word is Consistent.  During my trauma relationship, I kind of changed as a person. The pressure was so immense to do things right that in the process of doing something new to make her happy, I forgot the basics. Being consistent. It's not that I am blaming this on her. But the level of chaos was so much in my head that I actually went down the drain. She, if she had been a better human would have seen and helped me. Unfortunately, that was not the case. So, I started becoming more and more and more with each passing day.  I would say things and forget. I would commit to things and then flake out. I stopped being initiative and started to forget or should I say never wanted to remember any birthdays. I felt I am over-busy and overwhelmed all the time....

One of the most common complaints I hear from women is that men don't listen    Be it at work where their good ideas are ignored, or at home when their spouse totally forgets what she told him. Why can't men listen? They can, once you learn how to talk to men the right way. So the next time you want to talk to your male boss, be heard in a meeting, discuss an issue with your spouse, or connect with your teenage son, remember that there are certain ways to teach men how to listen — and it all starts with your approach. Men don't hear as well as women. Honestly. It starts at birth and continues through life. This was first proven through studies in neonatal clinics where researchers thought playing soft background music might calm premature infants, enabling them to eat more and gain weight faster. The results showed a major improvement for females and no improvement for males. Further studies showed this because the little boys did not hear as well. This hearing difference ...

Being in a relationship with a narcissist is difficult. So, if you feel like you’re at the end of your rope and you just can’t do it anymore, you’re not alone. When you just can’t make it work anymore or don’t want to keep trying, it’s time to learn how to leave a narcissist. The common symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) make maintaining a healthy relationship difficult unless the person is very aware of their behaviour and ability to control it. Unfortunately, this is often not the case for people. And while you may have tried your hardest to make it work, you may find that it is draining on your mental and emotional well-being. If you’re in a relationship with someone with NPD, you have likely been a recipient of their narcissistic abuse, and you might be wondering how to deal with a narcissistic partner. As you consider your options and determine that you are ready to leave your marriage, you may have the same concern as I had. Which was, that the judge or the medi...

Betrayal is probably the most devastating loss a person can experience. To be betrayed, the person must first experience trust in the betrayer. It is fairly impossible for you to be betrayed if you did not trust the individual in the first place. Therefore, the definition of betrayal involves the act of someone violating your trust in them. The betrayal I am discussing in this article refers to a spouse being betrayed when their partner just cheats. Betrayal is when someone you trust lies to you, cheats on you, abuses you, or hurts you by putting their own self-interest first. In my case, the entire selfishness of her for using me to satisfy her own ego to move on from her past was just a shocker. The reason that betrayal is the most devastating kind of loss is that most often it is a loss that didn't have to occur. It only occurs because of someone's deliberately hurtful behaviour, carelessness, or their own personal weakness. Unlike a loss such as death or illness, there is ...